Category Archives: You Can Burn His Stuff

The Solidarity of Our Pain

Posted on November 17, 2012 by Lyn

“We each are suffering our own individual train wrecks, but when stepping back you see they are all, indeed, train wrecks and many common themes. ” –  Sarah, affair survivor Have you ever felt such pain?  I don’t care if … Continue reading →

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Decisions

Posted on November 17, 2012 by Lyn

“I’ve always said, it’s not conflict which kills a marriage;  it’s unresolved conflict.” The concept of any decisions needing to be made confronted me by way of my closest guy friend, someone I’ve known fornearlyever. I spilled my guts and he reacted, … Continue reading →

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I Need To Tell Someone

Posted on November 16, 2012 by Lyn

It’s the morning after…you know what’s happened. The sun still rises, the kids still run down for breakfast, the dog is doing the “I have to pee” dance of joy, the milk gets spilled, the cat throws up, the husband…will … Continue reading →

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Introduction – You Can Burn His Stuff Later

Posted on November 15, 2012 by Lyn

Letters and answering them have brought to my attention the need for a little guidance when slapped in the face by discovery of an affair.  I was in shock, for weeks, let alone the next day or the first week.  Paralyzed, actually, … Continue reading →

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Author and Extramarital Affairs Expert, “Dear Peggy” Vaughan Passes

Posted on November 15, 2012 by Lyn

Dear Survivors,      Two days ago, I received an email from James Vaughan, husband of Peggy Vaughan, via Dear Peggy’s mailing list.  Author and extramarital affairs expert linked to from this blog, Peggy passed from this life into the … Continue reading →

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Anniversaries, Tragedy, Chutes and Ladders

Posted on November 30, 2010 by Lyn

The odd bad day turned into a bad week which spun out into a bad month.  Anniversaries; of my mother-in-law’s death, which we never mourned properly because of the interruption of the discovery of the affair, 19 days later.  A … Continue reading →

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