Category Archives: Grief

“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan

Posted on November 21, 2012 by Lyn

When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network

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Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”

Posted on November 21, 2012 by Lyn

A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading →

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The Patraeus Affair and Secrets

Posted on November 19, 2012 by Lyn

As the Patraeus affair remains newsworthy, at least, to the moronic media, we, here, at our house have barely mentioned it.  We don’t watch much broadcast news, here, at home, although Husband gets more than plenty since he is in … Continue reading →

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The Man He Is

Posted on November 17, 2012 by Lyn

“Realize that the way the offender reacts/acts is huge in whether or not anything can be saved.”  Sarah The night I learned of my husband’s affair was such a bizarre, surreal, wacky trip. He’d been outed by his lover’s husband, who had been … Continue reading →

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From Now On?

Posted on April 1, 2010 by Lyn

Someone tweeted, “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher. I don’t remember who the **** Henry Ward Beecher is, but, really?  Really, Henry Ward Beecher?  Because if I decide to believe this, and I have … Continue reading →

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Thanks, Jesse!

Posted on March 19, 2010 by Lyn

Well, Jesse, thanks to your cheatin’ heart, along with the rest of you, we have gotten to the bottom of the mystery of the Why.  Why guys cheat, which Deborah says (in comments) is different than why women cheat, which … Continue reading →

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Revenge

Posted on February 26, 2010 by Lyn

  On the days reality bites like a cold mackerel across the face, or better yet, the sting of a hard slap on a wet behind and I feel a little hatred for my husband, I tell someone else.  This … Continue reading →

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The Promise

Posted on February 10, 2010 by Lyn

He was distressed over the promise he made two months ago.  I asked him to tell someone about the affair.  He asked me what he could do and I told him what I wanted him to do “without discussing it … Continue reading →

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Shock

Posted on December 27, 2009 by Lyn

“Whatever you are thinking about me I deserve,” said my husband, today.  Again. Spent a lot of the day curled up on my side on the bed.  Wish I could pick a mood and stick with it, but once I … Continue reading →

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