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Category Archives: Secrets
A Dilemma
I noticed a message on my phone and checked the voice mail. It was a message from my sister-in-law, Husband’s brother’s wife. Brother’s Wife and I have been good friends over the years and have gotten closer, as have Other … Continue reading
From Now On?
Someone tweeted, “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher. I don’t remember who the **** Henry Ward Beecher is, but, really? Really, Henry Ward Beecher? Because if I decide to believe this, and I have … Continue reading
Posted in Affair, Anger, Betrayal, Discontent, Emotions, Grief, Our marriage, Reactions, Secrets
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“Number Withheld”
Yesterday, I heard a strange sound. An old cell phone my husband stopped using last summer began to ring. It has a very distinctive ring, so I instantly knew what it was, even though he had “retired” it. I … Continue reading
Her Facebook
It happens every couple of weeks, when things get feeling a little too “back to normal” and it begins to feel like I am doing all of the heavy lifting in marriage recovery. You know, the reading, the reflection, the … Continue reading
Posted in Affair, Anger, Emotions, Facebook, Lost Love, Opportunity, Other Woman, Our marriage, Reactions, Secrets, Shock
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Q and A
“Let me understand this. You had an affair.” “Yes.” “You went to a hotel?” “Yes. She made all of the arrangements.” “You went to a hotel to meet another woman.” “Yes.” “You went to a room and took your clothes … Continue reading
Posted in "Need to know", Affair, Discovery, Facebook, Lost Love, Opportunity, Other Woman, Reactions, Secrets, Shock, THE NEW REALITY, The Reveal
Tagged "need to know", Answers, this is about what I need, uncertainty
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The Outburst
After a fairly quiet day, it’s become clear that my husband is substantially depressed. He stopped talking a few hours ago and then when I asked him about it, he said he was thinking about things. He just lost his … Continue reading
Posted in Depression, Reactions, Secrets
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After His Affair 
Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”
A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading →