Category Archives: Anger

“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan

When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network … Continue reading

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Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”

A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading

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The Man He Is

“Realize that the way the offender reacts/acts is huge in whether or not anything can be saved.”  Sarah The night I learned of my husband’s affair was such a bizarre, surreal, wacky trip. He’d been outed by his lover’s husband, who had been … Continue reading

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Decisions

“I’ve always said, it’s not conflict which kills a marriage;  it’s unresolved conflict.” The concept of any decisions needing to be made confronted me by way of my closest guy friend, someone I’ve known fornearlyever. I spilled my guts and he reacted, … Continue reading

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Inching Towards Normal

I’m surprised.  I am feeling so much better than I was over the past few weeks.  Much better. Yesterday, I was printing out copies when the magenta ran out and I thought Husband had said he’d changed it.  Just at … Continue reading

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Clean-up

Finally came to a peace agreement around noon, Sunday, if you can call it that.  Maybe we were too exhausted to go on.  He was sorry, we talked some more and he eventually came to the conclusion that I misunderstood … Continue reading

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From Now On?

Someone tweeted, “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher. I don’t remember who the **** Henry Ward Beecher is, but, really?  Really, Henry Ward Beecher?  Because if I decide to believe this, and I have … Continue reading

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