Category Archives: Anger

“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan

Posted on November 21, 2012 by Lyn

When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network

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Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”

Posted on November 21, 2012 by Lyn

A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading →

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The Man He Is

Posted on November 17, 2012 by Lyn

“Realize that the way the offender reacts/acts is huge in whether or not anything can be saved.”  Sarah The night I learned of my husband’s affair was such a bizarre, surreal, wacky trip. He’d been outed by his lover’s husband, who had been … Continue reading →

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Decisions

Posted on November 17, 2012 by Lyn

“I’ve always said, it’s not conflict which kills a marriage;  it’s unresolved conflict.” The concept of any decisions needing to be made confronted me by way of my closest guy friend, someone I’ve known fornearlyever. I spilled my guts and he reacted, … Continue reading →

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Inching Towards Normal

Posted on April 14, 2010 by Lyn

I’m surprised.  I am feeling so much better than I was over the past few weeks.  Much better. Yesterday, I was printing out copies when the magenta ran out and I thought Husband had said he’d changed it.  Just at … Continue reading →

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Clean-up

Posted on April 12, 2010 by Lyn

Finally came to a peace agreement around noon, Sunday, if you can call it that.  Maybe we were too exhausted to go on.  He was sorry, we talked some more and he eventually came to the conclusion that I misunderstood … Continue reading →

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From Now On?

Posted on April 1, 2010 by Lyn

Someone tweeted, “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher. I don’t remember who the **** Henry Ward Beecher is, but, really?  Really, Henry Ward Beecher?  Because if I decide to believe this, and I have … Continue reading →

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“Number Withheld”

Posted on March 17, 2010 by Lyn

  Yesterday, I heard a strange sound.  An old cell phone my husband stopped using last summer began to ring.  It has a very distinctive ring, so I instantly knew what it was, even though he had “retired” it.  I … Continue reading →

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Love Hurts

Posted on March 12, 2010 by Lyn

After my Checking-Out-OW’s-Facebook-Meltdown, my friend sash wrote me another one of her awesome letters: I’m sorry it feels so heavy on your shoulders.  Sadly, you ARE the only one that can work through your process.  Whether it’s letting go, grieving, … Continue reading →

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Her Facebook

Posted on March 11, 2010 by Lyn

It happens every couple of weeks, when things get feeling a little too “back to normal” and it begins to feel like I am doing all of the heavy lifting in marriage recovery.  You know, the reading, the reflection, the … Continue reading →

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Why Do I Care?

Posted on March 9, 2010 by Lyn

Why do I care that she is younger than I am?  Dunno.  Just sort of do.  What am I really upset about?  Okay, I’ll tell you. Elizabeth called me the other day to catch up and she mentioned Tiger Woods’ … Continue reading →

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What’s She Got?

Posted on March 3, 2010 by Lyn

Explanations such as, “By the time I realized it was too late, it was too late”  are not at all helpful and only cause that question mark hanging over my head get bigger and bolder.  Soon, it ought to be … Continue reading →

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Shut Up

Posted on March 2, 2010 by Lyn

I love telling my husband to shut up.  I haven’t done it for a while and I only began doing it a couple of years ago and although it violates my long-established philosophy of life to say it?  I get … Continue reading →

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Fear, An Awful Place to Visit

Posted on February 18, 2010 by Lyn

I’ve been living in fear.  Fear is not a mood, but it’s a true mood-killer.  It’s there like a hellish foundation of all that is horrible and terrifying.  It’s accompanied by dread, something which gives the fear some strength, backbone, … Continue reading →

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