Category Archives: Fear

“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan

When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network

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Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”

A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading

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Introduction – You Can Burn His Stuff Later

Letters and answering them have brought to my attention the need for a little guidance when slapped in the face by discovery of an affair.  I was in shock, for weeks, let alone the next day or the first week.  Paralyzed, actually, … Continue reading

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Clean-up

Finally came to a peace agreement around noon, Sunday, if you can call it that.  Maybe we were too exhausted to go on.  He was sorry, we talked some more and he eventually came to the conclusion that I misunderstood … Continue reading

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Crashing and Burning

Long, long, long day.  There is a little conflict here on why I don’t feel so well after not knowing where he was for a few hours and he is upset that I have the nerve to be upset and … Continue reading

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What’s She Got?

Explanations such as, “By the time I realized it was too late, it was too late”  are not at all helpful and only cause that question mark hanging over my head get bigger and bolder.  Soon, it ought to be … Continue reading

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Fear, An Awful Place to Visit

I’ve been living in fear.  Fear is not a mood, but it’s a true mood-killer.  It’s there like a hellish foundation of all that is horrible and terrifying.  It’s accompanied by dread, something which gives the fear some strength, backbone, … Continue reading

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