When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened.
Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network
Notes From The Wreckage
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After His Affair 
this is one of my favorites. “However, most of us (including myself, initially) tend to think that a partner’s affair has to be due to some failure on our part to “meet their needs.” By thinking an affair is due to “unmet needs,” we set ourselves up to take the “blame” when our partner has an affair—and to take the “responsibility” for keeping it from happening again.”