Category Archives: Trauma

“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan

When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network … Continue reading

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Not So Fast…

It totally figures.  Finally, you realize that you’re not thinking about What Happened every waking minute or even every other waking minute.  In fact, you can’t quite remember the last time you were even experiencing angst or fury or vengeful … Continue reading

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Heal or Be Crippled

Writing about painful things is like vomiting poison.  Getting it out is essential. When someone asked me if writing calms me, I thought it over.  For me, language is vivid and powerful, and by expressing it, some emotion is purged.  … Continue reading

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Fear, An Awful Place to Visit

I’ve been living in fear.  Fear is not a mood, but it’s a true mood-killer.  It’s there like a hellish foundation of all that is horrible and terrifying.  It’s accompanied by dread, something which gives the fear some strength, backbone, … Continue reading

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