Category Archives: Facebook

“Number Withheld”

  Yesterday, I heard a strange sound.  An old cell phone my husband stopped using last summer began to ring.  It has a very distinctive ring, so I instantly knew what it was, even though he had “retired” it.  I … Continue reading

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Love Hurts

After my Checking-Out-OW’s-Facebook-Meltdown, my friend sash wrote me another one of her awesome letters: I’m sorry it feels so heavy on your shoulders.  Sadly, you ARE the only one that can work through your process.  Whether it’s letting go, grieving, … Continue reading

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Her Facebook

It happens every couple of weeks, when things get feeling a little too “back to normal” and it begins to feel like I am doing all of the heavy lifting in marriage recovery.  You know, the reading, the reflection, the … Continue reading

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From “Friending” to Affair

Men are very different than women, no doubt about that.  Whereas, being happily married has been enough of a deterrent to temptation for myself, never mind any moral arguments, it was not enough for my husband, the same one who … Continue reading

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The Promise

He was distressed over the promise he made two months ago.  I asked him to tell someone about the affair.  He asked me what he could do and I told him what I wanted him to do “without discussing it … Continue reading

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The Calm Before The Storm

When to post, what to post?  There were times this week when I felt so victorious over the situation that I wondered if I would have anything to write about, again- delusion.  I thought if we could just get through … Continue reading

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Q and A

“Let me understand this. You had an affair.” “Yes.” “You went to a hotel?” “Yes. She made all of the arrangements.” “You went to a hotel to meet another woman.” “Yes.” “You went to a room and took your clothes … Continue reading

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The Lost Love

I sat for a long time, real or imagined, on the sofa.  I saw what happened, I heard what happened, but what was happening? I stood up and turned towards our bedroom. My husband was now in the kitchen, ready … Continue reading

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