Category Archives: Affair

A Dedication to Peggy Vaughan – Founder of BAN by Ann Bercht

Posted on November 24, 2012 by Lyn

“I, and thousands of others, will be eternally grateful for Peggy Vaughan and her bold, honest and pioneering work in helping the world recover from affairs. If only I had found her during my own recovery, my journey would’ve been less painful. … Continue reading →

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“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan

Posted on November 21, 2012 by Lyn

When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network

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Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”

Posted on November 21, 2012 by Lyn

A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading →

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A Dilemma

Posted on May 3, 2010 by Lyn

I noticed a message on my phone and checked the voice mail.  It was a message from my sister-in-law, Husband’s brother’s wife. Brother’s  Wife and I have been good friends over the years and have gotten closer, as have Other … Continue reading →

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From Now On?

Posted on April 1, 2010 by Lyn

Someone tweeted, “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher. I don’t remember who the **** Henry Ward Beecher is, but, really?  Really, Henry Ward Beecher?  Because if I decide to believe this, and I have … Continue reading →

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“Number Withheld”

Posted on March 17, 2010 by Lyn

  Yesterday, I heard a strange sound.  An old cell phone my husband stopped using last summer began to ring.  It has a very distinctive ring, so I instantly knew what it was, even though he had “retired” it.  I … Continue reading →

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Her Facebook

Posted on March 11, 2010 by Lyn

It happens every couple of weeks, when things get feeling a little too “back to normal” and it begins to feel like I am doing all of the heavy lifting in marriage recovery.  You know, the reading, the reflection, the … Continue reading →

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Why Do I Care?

Posted on March 9, 2010 by Lyn

Why do I care that she is younger than I am?  Dunno.  Just sort of do.  What am I really upset about?  Okay, I’ll tell you. Elizabeth called me the other day to catch up and she mentioned Tiger Woods’ … Continue reading →

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What’s She Got?

Posted on March 3, 2010 by Lyn

Explanations such as, “By the time I realized it was too late, it was too late”  are not at all helpful and only cause that question mark hanging over my head get bigger and bolder.  Soon, it ought to be … Continue reading →

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The Promise

Posted on February 10, 2010 by Lyn

He was distressed over the promise he made two months ago.  I asked him to tell someone about the affair.  He asked me what he could do and I told him what I wanted him to do “without discussing it … Continue reading →

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The Other Shoe

Posted on February 1, 2010 by Lyn

Finally.  I am starting to thaw.  I skipped over a lot of stuff in my mission to get things where they are “supposed” to be without realizing all of the sacrifices I was making.  It occurred to me, yesterday, after … Continue reading →

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Q and A

Posted on December 22, 2009 by Lyn

“Let me understand this. You had an affair.” “Yes.” “You went to a hotel?” “Yes. She made all of the arrangements.” “You went to a hotel to meet another woman.” “Yes.” “You went to a room and took your clothes … Continue reading →

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A Week Into Knowing

Posted on December 17, 2009 by Lyn

It’s been a week. Actually, it was a week at about 7PM last night. At 7PM, a week ago, I emerged from the bedroom where I’d been holed up trying to make sense of what had just happened. Just in … Continue reading →

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