Category Archives: Betrayal

Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”

A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading

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The Solidarity of Our Pain

“We each are suffering our own individual train wrecks, but when stepping back you see they are all, indeed, train wrecks and many common themes. ” –  Sarah, affair survivor Have you ever felt such pain?  I don’t care if … Continue reading

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The Comfort of Laura

When I first learned of the affair, I told 2 people very close to me, both of whom were furious with anger.  One was female, the other male; people who have known me all or most of my life. When … Continue reading

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Trust

Julieanna says “trust issues can fade.” So can the bad thing that happened, but rehashing the thing over and over and over if you are ready to move past it isn’t maybe always the best thing to do. I agree, … Continue reading

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Crashing and Burning

Long, long, long day.  There is a little conflict here on why I don’t feel so well after not knowing where he was for a few hours and he is upset that I have the nerve to be upset and … Continue reading

Posted in Betrayal, Depression, Ego, Fear, Other Woman, Suspicion, Trust

From Now On?

Someone tweeted, “One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”  ~ Henry Ward Beecher. I don’t remember who the **** Henry Ward Beecher is, but, really?  Really, Henry Ward Beecher?  Because if I decide to believe this, and I have … Continue reading

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Thanks, Jesse!

Well, Jesse, thanks to your cheatin’ heart, along with the rest of you, we have gotten to the bottom of the mystery of the Why.  Why guys cheat, which Deborah says (in comments) is different than why women cheat, which … Continue reading

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Sandra Bullock and My Defining Moment

  Well, it’s everywhere, today.  Twitter is awash with incredulous remarks about Jesse James and what a selfish, egotistical moron he is.  Those are my words, the other words used are pretty unappealing, anyway…love Sandra Bullock, have for a long … Continue reading

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“Number Withheld”

  Yesterday, I heard a strange sound.  An old cell phone my husband stopped using last summer began to ring.  It has a very distinctive ring, so I instantly knew what it was, even though he had “retired” it.  I … Continue reading

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Shut Up

I love telling my husband to shut up.  I haven’t done it for a while and I only began doing it a couple of years ago and although it violates my long-established philosophy of life to say it?  I get … Continue reading

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Fear, An Awful Place to Visit

I’ve been living in fear.  Fear is not a mood, but it’s a true mood-killer.  It’s there like a hellish foundation of all that is horrible and terrifying.  It’s accompanied by dread, something which gives the fear some strength, backbone, … Continue reading

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