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Author Archives: Lyn
The Man He Is
“Realize that the way the offender reacts/acts is huge in whether or not anything can be saved.” Sarah The night I learned of my husband’s affair was such a bizarre, surreal, wacky trip. He’d been outed by his lover’s husband, who had been … Continue reading
Decisions
“I’ve always said, it’s not conflict which kills a marriage; it’s unresolved conflict.” The concept of any decisions needing to be made confronted me by way of my closest guy friend, someone I’ve known fornearlyever. I spilled my guts and he reacted, … Continue reading
Posted in Anger, Reactions, Revenge, You Can Burn His Stuff
Tagged decisions, divorce-worthy, unresolved conflict
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I Need To Tell Someone
It’s the morning after…you know what’s happened. The sun still rises, the kids still run down for breakfast, the dog is doing the “I have to pee” dance of joy, the milk gets spilled, the cat throws up, the husband…will … Continue reading
Posted in Advice, Friends, Telling others, You Can Burn His Stuff
Tagged drama, indiscrete, this is about what I need, what should I do?
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Introduction – You Can Burn His Stuff Later
Letters and answering them have brought to my attention the need for a little guidance when slapped in the face by discovery of an affair. I was in shock, for weeks, let alone the next day or the first week. Paralyzed, actually, … Continue reading
Posted in Advice, Behavior, Emotions, Fear, Reactions, Recovering, You Can Burn His Stuff
Tagged respect, uncertainty
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Author and Extramarital Affairs Expert, “Dear Peggy” Vaughan Passes
Dear Survivors, Two days ago, I received an email from James Vaughan, husband of Peggy Vaughan, via Dear Peggy’s mailing list. Author and extramarital affairs expert linked to from this blog, Peggy passed from this life into the … Continue reading
Where We Are, What’s Next
I owe an apology to my readers for taking so long to update this blog. A year and a half since I last posted? I can’t believe it. Where has the time gone? Gratefully, that time, or precious little of … Continue reading
Fifteen Months In
Fifteen months into this unexpected, unwelcome hot mess thrown into my lap. November and December were pretty rough, I have to admit, with the anniversary of the day of discovery, compolicated by some unrelated health and family issues, December, indeed, … Continue reading
Posted in Recovering
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After His Affair 