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Category Archives: Emotions
“The Need to Know” – Why we need answers to our questions by Peggy Vaughan
When learning of our partner’s affair, most of us feel an intense “need to know” – asking questions to try to make some kind of sense out of what has happened. Read Peggy’s article here, at the Beyond Affairs Network
Posted in "Need to know", Affair, Anger, Dear Peggy, Depression, Discontent, Emotions, Extramarital affairs expert, Fear, Grief, Husband, Men, Offender, Other Woman, Peggy Vaughan, Trauma, What Would Peggy Say?
Tagged "need to know", Answers, Peggy Vaughan, questions
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Peggy Vaughan’s work: “Read it all. It’s all you need.”
A comment on “Extramarital Affairs Expert “Dear Peggy” Vaughan has passed.” I read thirty books before I came to Peggy’s. There I stopped. It was all there, no need to go further. As a matter of fact, her rational straightforward and … Continue reading
The Patraeus Affair and Secrets
As the Patraeus affair remains newsworthy, at least, to the moronic media, we, here, at our house have barely mentioned it. We don’t watch much broadcast news, here, at home, although Husband gets more than plenty since he is in … Continue reading
The Man He Is
“Realize that the way the offender reacts/acts is huge in whether or not anything can be saved.” Sarah The night I learned of my husband’s affair was such a bizarre, surreal, wacky trip. He’d been outed by his lover’s husband, who had been … Continue reading
Decisions
“I’ve always said, it’s not conflict which kills a marriage; it’s unresolved conflict.” The concept of any decisions needing to be made confronted me by way of my closest guy friend, someone I’ve known fornearlyever. I spilled my guts and he reacted, … Continue reading
Posted in Anger, Reactions, Revenge, You Can Burn His Stuff
Tagged decisions, divorce-worthy, unresolved conflict
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Introduction – You Can Burn His Stuff Later
Letters and answering them have brought to my attention the need for a little guidance when slapped in the face by discovery of an affair. I was in shock, for weeks, let alone the next day or the first week. Paralyzed, actually, … Continue reading
Posted in Advice, Behavior, Emotions, Fear, Reactions, Recovering, You Can Burn His Stuff
Tagged respect, uncertainty
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After His Affair 
A Dedication to Peggy Vaughan – Founder of BAN by Ann Bercht
“I, and thousands of others, will be eternally grateful for Peggy Vaughan and her bold, honest and pioneering work in helping the world recover from affairs. If only I had found her during my own recovery, my journey would’ve been less painful. … Continue reading →