Category Archives: Recovering

Recovery Is For Both

Things are painful enough that I decided to go back to The Source, Peggy Vaughan, to see if I could find some help.  Why I didn’t do this sooner?  Who knows, but as I wrote in an email to Peggy, … Continue reading

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It Takes As Long As It Takes

Someone said that it’s not conflict that’s bad for a relationship, but, unresolved conflict which takes a mighty toll.  I know, now, that’s the bottom line in a previous relationship, even though there were a number of other factors raging at … Continue reading

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Not So Fast…

It totally figures.  Finally, you realize that you’re not thinking about What Happened every waking minute or even every other waking minute.  In fact, you can’t quite remember the last time you were even experiencing angst or fury or vengeful … Continue reading

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Inching Towards Normal

I’m surprised.  I am feeling so much better than I was over the past few weeks.  Much better. Yesterday, I was printing out copies when the magenta ran out and I thought Husband had said he’d changed it.  Just at … Continue reading

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Trust

Julieanna says “trust issues can fade.” So can the bad thing that happened, but rehashing the thing over and over and over if you are ready to move past it isn’t maybe always the best thing to do. I agree, … Continue reading

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Heal or Be Crippled

Writing about painful things is like vomiting poison.  Getting it out is essential. When someone asked me if writing calms me, I thought it over.  For me, language is vivid and powerful, and by expressing it, some emotion is purged.  … Continue reading

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