Author Archives: Lyn

It Takes As Long As It Takes

Posted on July 6, 2010 by Lyn

Someone said that it’s not conflict that’s bad for a relationship, but, unresolved conflict which takes a mighty toll.  I know, now, that’s the bottom line in a previous relationship, even though there were a number of other factors raging at … Continue reading →

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Triggers

Posted on July 1, 2010 by Lyn

I hate surprises and triggers qualify as surprises of the worst category.  One can be flipping channels and bump into shows entitled, “Why Men Cheat,” or be browsing the news and see headlines telling of how another couple is broken … Continue reading →

Posted in Affairs in the Media, Dear Peggy, Extramarital affairs expert, Peggy Vaughan, Triggers, What Would Peggy Say?, Why men cheat? | 6 Comments

Not So Fast…

Posted on June 19, 2010 by Lyn

It totally figures.  Finally, you realize that you’re not thinking about What Happened every waking minute or even every other waking minute.  In fact, you can’t quite remember the last time you were even experiencing angst or fury or vengeful … Continue reading →

Posted in Behavior, Other Woman, Reactions, Recovering, Trauma | Tagged | 3 Comments

The Dilemma, Case Closed?

Posted on June 17, 2010 by Lyn

  I feel like a slacker not having updated since I wrote “A Dilemma.” That dilemma was such a major part of my life throughout much of the past 6 months, a giant wall between myself and other people.  You’d … Continue reading →

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A Dilemma

Posted on May 3, 2010 by Lyn

I noticed a message on my phone and checked the voice mail.  It was a message from my sister-in-law, Husband’s brother’s wife. Brother’s  Wife and I have been good friends over the years and have gotten closer, as have Other … Continue reading →

Posted in Affair, Behavior, Depression, Emotions, Revenge, Secrets | 1 Comment

Inching Towards Normal

Posted on April 14, 2010 by Lyn

I’m surprised.  I am feeling so much better than I was over the past few weeks.  Much better. Yesterday, I was printing out copies when the magenta ran out and I thought Husband had said he’d changed it.  Just at … Continue reading →

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Trust

Posted on April 13, 2010 by Lyn

Julieanna says “trust issues can fade.” So can the bad thing that happened, but rehashing the thing over and over and over if you are ready to move past it isn’t maybe always the best thing to do. I agree, … Continue reading →

Posted in Betrayal, Recovering, Trust | 4 Comments